We are impatient beings. We want it all, fame, money, success, a sexy body, and happiness. The problem with that? Very small percentage of people are willing to work for those things. Over time as everything becomes easy and fast, people have started searching for shortcuts not only on computers (ctrl+alt+del) but also in real life. The problem is that life isn’t about a code 1011001101 like a computer is. Life is more complicated than that. And the sad and brutal truth is, that life has no short cuts.
I find it surprising that people do not know this. We as people have always had ways to improve and make our life easier. During the stone age, we would make weapons to make hunting easier and we also invented fire. But even then we couldn’t invent something to stop us from running after our pray. This is the case still today. We can have mechanical pens, computer, I Pad’s and phones, but we still have to put our brain on as well to actually be able to do things. Same goes to achieving fitness goals. We have weights and machines to help us exercise, but you still need to do it. You still need to eat healthy foods to get the body you want.
So, no matter what there are no short cuts. I just don’t see where the problem with this is. Why should there be an easy way out? I mean, we people are designed so that we need a certain level of challenge in order to feel satisfied when we achieve the goal. I mean no one who is 20+ is going to be all pumped up because they were able to draw a stick figure, that is because there was nothing to overcome, no reason to feel very proud.
What we consider a challenge is different for everyone and that should be something that puts you down. You cannot look at a YouTuber making six figures $$$ and expect to be in the same situation after only a week or two of making the videos. Or a blogger who just started and assume you will have a huge number of followers. It takes time, work, commitment, and patience. And even then, maybe you aren’t in your niche, maybe you won’t achieve what you assumed you would. That is fine too. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise. Changing goals doesn’t equal failure, it means growing and learning new things about yourself, but do not change your goals just because something is too hard. If you really want it, you will push through the hard stuff.
I have just a few tips for you that you may find helpful to stay on track with your goals. These aren’t shortcuts, so stop hoping. These are things that will help you stop feeling like you need shortcuts. So, let’s see what I’ve got for you.
- Figure out where you are right now and where you want to be in the future. Are you in the very beginning of achieving your goal or are you half way? Why this is important? This will give you a chance to look at your goal within a period. If you are just starting out you can bet your bottom dollar that you will have to work hard and for longer. If you are about half way through you can assume that it might take 3 months instead of the six months. Do not ever punish yourself for taking time. No proper life goal was EVER achieved within minutes. It takes time, and there is no shame in that.
- Figure out a realistic time frame for your goal. This goes with the first tip. If you want to lose a huge amount of weight it will take more time than if you want to lose only about a couple of pounds. If you have never gone to the gym you will have to put more effort, or different kind of effort into achieving your fitness goals that someone who has been going for a year or more. Do not give yourself too much time, though. There is this thing called Parkinson’s law, that essentially means that the task you have to do will take exactly the time you give it. If you give yourself 3 months to write an essay, that is how long it will take, but if you give three days, it will work out that way too. (To read about it more check out Parkinson’s law on Wikipedia for example, I will leave a link down below). This is not to say that you can force yourself to get a six pack within 3 days, you still have to be realistic with every task.
- Have role models, not people you compare yourself to. You cannot look at a Victoria Secret model and assume you should look like them automatically. Even with hard work, you might NEVER look like them, mostly because most of them do not eat properly and are photoshopped but also because you aren’t them. You have a different body and you have different genes and that is ok. That’s not to say you can’t look up to them or whoever you look up to. Usually, I suggest looking up to people’s habits, not their looks because habits are actually something you can copy. But do please remember that sometimes things that work for someone don’t for you and you need to put your health and comfort before any blind hero worship. Keep that brain turned on.
- Track you progress. It doesn’t matter what your goal is, but each week look back and see what you have done to achieve or help achieve your goal (remember baby steps, don’t put yourself down.) Write down the things that you did good, and maybe the things you could have done better. Not for beating yourself over them, but to work on those things later on. If you are trying to lose weight, for example, your tracking could look something like, ate 3 healthy meals per day, slipped up on Sunday. Then think why you slipped up? Did you feel a certain way, or was there peer pressure? Whatever it is written the reason down too, and how you are going to work on that later. For example, telling your friends that you need their support with this because it is close to your heart. Or if it was your own fault write that you won’t go to the store when you are hungry because then you buy everything.
- Slipping from your goal doesn’t mean you failed it. I know there will be a lot of people saying that it takes 21 or 60 days to achieve a goal, or whatever. But that doesn’t mean that if you slipped up on day 19 that you can’t continue working. It doesn’t mean that whole process was pointless. It just means that you learned what not to do. I think personally that achieving goals isn’t so much about the days that it takes but the mindset you have. It isn’t like if you want to become fit that after the 21st day it no longer takes effort? You still have to work hard. What matters is your mind. It takes some time to teach your mind to forget a certain pattern and learn a new one, and it doesn’t matter how many days it takes because I believe all of us are different. With big goals like success, fitness, learning and health there isn’t really an end line. Of course, you can make a timeline how long you assume you will achieve a mini goal within the big goal, but after you have to continue pushing. So if you one day actually did something that you weren’t supposed to, don’t give up, just continue where you left off.
Parkinson’s Law: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parkinson’s_law
That is all I have for now. There are a lot of other tips and most of what I have said has been said before, but I added my own little twist. If you have comments or questions please do not hesitate to ask. Thank you very much and see you in my next post.